Showing posts with label divorce. Show all posts
Showing posts with label divorce. Show all posts
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Friday, March 2, 2012
Sunday, February 19, 2012
Jenna McCarthy: What you don't know about marriage
- Happiest marriages, wife is thinner than the husband
- Happiest couples focus on the positive
- The more a husband does housework, the more sexually attractive he is.
- The people who smile in childhood photos are less likely to get a divorce
- People who win an Oscar for best actress are more likely to get a divorce
- Watching romantic comedies cause relationship satisfaction to plummet
- Drinking alcohol is bad for marriage
- Divorce is contagious
- 1000 legal benefits to marriage
- Married people make more money
- More sex than single people
- Married people live longer.
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
She was locked in a bathroom for the past decade by her father
"People are monsters," Baraa Melhem said her father would tell her, according to a social worker dealing with the case.
Palestinian police said on Monday they freed Melhem from the small bathroom of a home in the West Bank city of Qalqilya on Saturday after an anonymous tip.
Her father, who holds Israeli citizenship, was arrested and handed over to Israeli authorities. He is due to appear in an Israeli court on Wednesday, an Israeli police spokesman said.
Melhem told Voice of Palestine radio that when she was 11, her father confined her to the toilet and did not allow her to go to school or see her mother, whom he had divorced.
She was beaten with a baton and metal wires and given only one blanket to keep her warm, said the social worker, Hala Shreim.
"The bathroom was only 1-1/2 meters big, it was like a cell," Shreim said.
According to a statement issued by Palestinian police, the father, citing a "family dispute", admitted to locking up his daughter and feeding her mainly bread.
Melhem told Voice of Palestine that her father used to shave her hair and her eyebrows, and allowed her to shower only once a month. He would let her out of the bathroom every night at 1 a.m. to clean the house until 4 a.m., she added.
Melhem's father, the social worker said, often encouraged his daughter to commit suicide.
"Her only consolation was a radio which kept her connected to the world," Shreim said.
The young woman has now been reunited with her mother.
"She told me that she loves life and has to live," Shreim quoted Melhem as saying. [1]
Thursday, January 5, 2012
First American Divorce 1/5/1643
In the first record of a legal divorce in the American colonies, Anne Clarke of theMassachusetts Bay Colony is granted a divorce from her absent and adulterous husband, Denis Clarke, by the Quarter Court of Boston, Massachusetts. In a signed and sealed affidavit presented to John Winthrop Jr., the son of the colony's founder, Denis Clarke admitted to abandoning his wife, with whom he had two children, for another woman, with whom he had another two children. He also stated his refusal to return to his original wife, thus giving the Puritan court no option but to punish Clarke and grant a divorce to his wife, Anne. The Quarter Court's final decision read: "Anne Clarke, beeing deserted by Denis Clarke hir husband, and hee refusing to accompany with hir, she is graunted to bee divorced."
[1]
Friday, December 9, 2011
Marriage Project
College (highly) educated people had an 11% divorce rate in the late 90's.
However less people are getting married than ever before. The people who get married are more likely to stay married. [1]
Wednesday, November 2, 2011
Child Marriage: World's Youngest Divorced Woman
Also, HowStuffWorks' "Stuff Mom Never Told You" did a great podcast on the subject of child brides.
Child Marriage: Buying and Selling Brides
Sunday, October 23, 2011
More from the Catholic Encyclopedia
Divorce was a social program to take care of women. Also, the Catholic Encyclopedia seems to argue that forbidding divorce raises the civil and social status of women.
In modern countries which permit divorce, and yet call themselvesChristian, the wife can take advantage of the practice about as easily as the husband; but his is undoubtedly due to the previous influence of Christianity in raising the civil and social status of woman during the long period in which divorce was forbidden. In the long run divorce must inevitably be more injurious to a women than to men. If the divorced woman remains single generally has greater difficulty in supporting herself than the divorced man; if she is young her opportunities of marrying again may, indeed, be about as good as those of the divorced man who is young; but if she is at or beyond middle age the probability that she will find a suitable spouse is decidedly smaller than in the case of her separated husband.
The fact that in the United States more women than men apply for divorces proves nothing as yet against the statements justset down; for we do not know whether these women have generally found it easy to get other husbands, or whether their newcondition was better than the old. The frequent appeal to the divorce courts by American women is a comparatively recent phenomenon, and is undoubtedly due more to emotion, imaginary hopes, and a hasty use of newly acquired freedom, than to calm and adequate study of the experiences of other divorced women. If the present facility of divorce should continue fifty years longer, the disproportionate hardship to women from the practice will probably have become so evident the number of them taking advantage of it, or approving it, will be much smaller than today.
The Divorce Crisis of the 1890's :)
If I can spout about history from memory, US judges are increasingly merciful to the wives. The Victorian women are increasingly viewed as pure and victims, therefore judges are more prompted to save them from their husbands.
In some of the non-Catholic countries divorce is extremely easy and scandalously frequent. Between 1890 and 1900 the divorces granted in the United States averaged 73 per 100,000 of the population annually. This was more than twice the rate in any other Western nation. The proportion in Switzerland was 32; in France, 23; in Saxony, 29; and in the majority of European countries, less than 15. So far as we are informed by statistics, only one country in the world, namely, Japan, had a worse record than the United States, the rate per 100,000 of the population the Flowery Kingdombeing 215. In most of the civilized countries the divorce rate is increasing, slowly in some, very rapidly in others. Relatively to the population, about two and one half times as many divorces are granted now in the United States as were issued forty year ago.[1]
Friday, September 30, 2011
RNS: Yankees have the lowest divorce rates :)
By Amy Kuperinsky
Religion News Service
(RNS) Poor New Jersey -- derided for "Jersey Shore," aggressive driving and talking too fast. But when it comes to happily ever after, the Garden State is No. 1.
A recent U.S. Census report shows the Northeast -- and New Jersey in particular -- has the lowest divorce rate in America, trailed closely by New York.
The Bible Belt, meanwhile, home to Southern hospitality, church telethons and country music, has more "shotgun" weddings and the most divorces.
"People assume that people in the Northeast divorce easily because they're less religious, but that's not the case," said Deborah Carr, a professor of sociology at Rutgers University.
In the Northeast, 7.2 per 1,000 men and 7.5 per 1,000 women got divorced. In the South, the rates were 10.2 for men and 11.1 for women. New Jersey's rates were 6.1 for men and 6 for women, according to the 2009 American Community Survey, which released the data in August.
Even though Jean Grossman is from New Jersey, her story mirrors those statistics. When she first moved to Texas, it was a classic case of culture shock.
"I thought I had landed on the moon," said Grossman, 59, a native of Oradell, N.J. After getting married, she moved in 1984 with her husband to Dallas, where he was pursuing a business opportunity. "I thought we were going into 'happily ever after,"' she said.
"Nobody in my family had ever gotten divorced," said Grossman, who now works as a divorce coach. "It just wasn't done."
Almost a decade later, in 1993, she asked her husband to move out, and they divorced three years later. Still living in the South, Grossman started a relationship with the man who would become her second husband, before returning to New Jersey in 2006.
The South sees more divorce for several reasons, Carr said:
First, Southerners tend to marry young, partly due to a lower rate of college attendance.
Second, couples don't usually move in together while unwed, a trend tied to religious beliefs. They often frown upon birth control, and are "more likely to have nonmarital pregnancies, which... then trigger 'shotgun' marriages."
Third, there are simply more marriages in the South. New Jersey had the second-lowest marriage rates, just above Maine. The Census survey reported while New Jersey's marriage rate is 14.8 for men and 13.3 for women, Georgia's is 22.1 and 20.4, respectively.
Though the South's marriage rate is 20.3, the West is highest, at 20.7. Wyoming was the single state with the highest marriage rates for both men (30.7) and women (28.7). And though it's not a Southern state, Alaska ranks like one, with the highest divorce rate for women, at 16.2. (For men, it's Arkansas at 13.5.)
While the national median age for a woman's first marriage is 26.5 and 28.4 for men, in New Jersey, people tend to get married at an older age; the median age for women is 28, and 30.2 for men.
Matt Eventoff, 38, recently celebrated his fifth wedding anniversary with his wife Nicole, 31. His parents, who are still together, got married in their early 20s, but he appreciates the fact that he waited until he was 33.
"The benefit to me was that I was more mature," said Eventoff, of Lawrenceville, N.J. "I was more established in my career. I felt that I was in a position where I could give more of myself."
New Jerseyans may also stick together because, well, it's just too expensive to break up.
Rick Verbanas, 40, belongs to the Central New Jersey Successful Divorce Support Group, which has more than 800 members. Verbanas and his family lived in Atlanta for several years before his wife, who grew up in Bridgewater, N.J., filed for divorce.
He moved to Somerville months later to be near his two children and won joint custody. Now an organizer for the Central Jersey Single Parents Meetup Group, Verbanas pays $500 more a month to rent half a house than he paid for a mortgage on a four-bedroom in Atlanta.
"When you really think about it, the thousands of dollars a month that are going into having two separate locations versus one certainly has to play into peoples' decisions," he said.
Choosing where to file for divorce can directly relate to the cost of living in that state, according to family law attorneys.
"When there's more money to fight about in New Jersey," said Randall Kessler, a family law attorney in Atlanta, "people take longer to get a divorce."[RNS]
Religion News Service
(RNS) Poor New Jersey -- derided for "Jersey Shore," aggressive driving and talking too fast. But when it comes to happily ever after, the Garden State is No. 1.
A recent U.S. Census report shows the Northeast -- and New Jersey in particular -- has the lowest divorce rate in America, trailed closely by New York.
The Bible Belt, meanwhile, home to Southern hospitality, church telethons and country music, has more "shotgun" weddings and the most divorces.
"People assume that people in the Northeast divorce easily because they're less religious, but that's not the case," said Deborah Carr, a professor of sociology at Rutgers University.
In the Northeast, 7.2 per 1,000 men and 7.5 per 1,000 women got divorced. In the South, the rates were 10.2 for men and 11.1 for women. New Jersey's rates were 6.1 for men and 6 for women, according to the 2009 American Community Survey, which released the data in August.
Even though Jean Grossman is from New Jersey, her story mirrors those statistics. When she first moved to Texas, it was a classic case of culture shock.
"I thought I had landed on the moon," said Grossman, 59, a native of Oradell, N.J. After getting married, she moved in 1984 with her husband to Dallas, where he was pursuing a business opportunity. "I thought we were going into 'happily ever after,"' she said.
"Nobody in my family had ever gotten divorced," said Grossman, who now works as a divorce coach. "It just wasn't done."
Almost a decade later, in 1993, she asked her husband to move out, and they divorced three years later. Still living in the South, Grossman started a relationship with the man who would become her second husband, before returning to New Jersey in 2006.
The South sees more divorce for several reasons, Carr said:
First, Southerners tend to marry young, partly due to a lower rate of college attendance.
Second, couples don't usually move in together while unwed, a trend tied to religious beliefs. They often frown upon birth control, and are "more likely to have nonmarital pregnancies, which... then trigger 'shotgun' marriages."
Third, there are simply more marriages in the South. New Jersey had the second-lowest marriage rates, just above Maine. The Census survey reported while New Jersey's marriage rate is 14.8 for men and 13.3 for women, Georgia's is 22.1 and 20.4, respectively.
Though the South's marriage rate is 20.3, the West is highest, at 20.7. Wyoming was the single state with the highest marriage rates for both men (30.7) and women (28.7). And though it's not a Southern state, Alaska ranks like one, with the highest divorce rate for women, at 16.2. (For men, it's Arkansas at 13.5.)
While the national median age for a woman's first marriage is 26.5 and 28.4 for men, in New Jersey, people tend to get married at an older age; the median age for women is 28, and 30.2 for men.
Matt Eventoff, 38, recently celebrated his fifth wedding anniversary with his wife Nicole, 31. His parents, who are still together, got married in their early 20s, but he appreciates the fact that he waited until he was 33.
"The benefit to me was that I was more mature," said Eventoff, of Lawrenceville, N.J. "I was more established in my career. I felt that I was in a position where I could give more of myself."
New Jerseyans may also stick together because, well, it's just too expensive to break up.
Rick Verbanas, 40, belongs to the Central New Jersey Successful Divorce Support Group, which has more than 800 members. Verbanas and his family lived in Atlanta for several years before his wife, who grew up in Bridgewater, N.J., filed for divorce.
He moved to Somerville months later to be near his two children and won joint custody. Now an organizer for the Central Jersey Single Parents Meetup Group, Verbanas pays $500 more a month to rent half a house than he paid for a mortgage on a four-bedroom in Atlanta.
"When you really think about it, the thousands of dollars a month that are going into having two separate locations versus one certainly has to play into peoples' decisions," he said.
Choosing where to file for divorce can directly relate to the cost of living in that state, according to family law attorneys.
"When there's more money to fight about in New Jersey," said Randall Kessler, a family law attorney in Atlanta, "people take longer to get a divorce."[RNS]
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